Meeting safely after you have been talking online
Most first meetings are ordinary and uneventful. A few habits make the ordinary ones more comfortable, and the rare uncomfortable ones easier to leave.
Before you go
- Video call first if you can, so you both know the photos are recent and real.
- Tell a friend the name you have been using, the place, and the time you expect to be back.
- Meet in a public place you already know, in daylight if you can.
- Do not give your home address, workplace or travel plans in too much detail.
Money and favours
Do not send money, vouchers or travel tickets to someone you have only met online. A request for help with a fare, a bill or a visa is one of the most common scam patterns. There is a fuller guide to online dating scams.
The safety page lists the tools on the site, including block, report and ID checks.
Not sure when to suggest meeting? Read how long to message before meeting. The same habits apply to a second meeting, and these second date ideas keep it public and easy. A few first date questions help the conversation along.
When you are ready, join free
Take your time with the guides. The profile will still be here.
Join freeQuick questions
Should I share my live location with a friend?
If it makes you more comfortable, yes, for the duration of the meeting. Do not share it with the person you are meeting.
What if I want to leave?
You can leave at any time. You do not owe a longer stay, a second drink, or a lift home.