Online dating scams: what to watch for
Most people on a dating site are who they say they are. A small number are not. The patterns below show up again and again, and they are worth knowing before you get far into a conversation.
Common warning signs
- They profess strong feelings very quickly, or say they cannot video call because of work, a posting abroad, or a broken camera.
- They ask to move to WhatsApp, a private email or a "more private" app almost immediately.
- They ask for money, vouchers, crypto, travel tickets or help with a sudden emergency.
- Their photos look professional or slightly inconsistent, or they refuse to send a picture taken in the moment.
What to do
Stop the conversation, do not send money, and use the report tool on their profile. If you have already sent money, contact your bank and, in the UK, report it to Action Fraud. The safety page explains the site tools, and meeting safely covers first meetings.
Action Fraud is the UK's national reporting centre for fraud and cyber crime. This is general guidance, not legal advice.
Someone who keeps finding reasons not to meet is one of the clearest warning signs. Read how long to message before meeting for what a normal pace looks like.
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Join freeQuick questions
Would a genuine person ever ask for money?
A genuine person you have only just met online should not need you to pay a bill, a fare or a visa fee. Treat any request for money as a reason to stop and report.
What if I am already embarrassed?
Report it anyway. Scammers rely on people staying quiet. Support teams have heard this before.